Bisexual dating: meet singles who are right for you

Are you bisexual and looking to meet someone for a great date or a meaningful relationship? With bisexual dating, you can connect with singles who are genuinely open to getting to know you — and discover who you really click with on a personal level.

Bisexuality means you can feel attracted to more than one gender. Who you ultimately find attractive and want to build a relationship with is always personal.

On 4Match, you can browse profiles, choose who you'd like to get to know, and take your time finding out whether your interests, personalities, and relationship goals are a good match.

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What does bisexual dating involve?

Bisexual dating simply means dating when you're attracted to people of more than one gender. For some, that's an attraction to men and women. Others experience bisexuality more broadly, including attraction to people of non-binary or other gender identities.

You don't need to feel equally attracted to every gender, either. Preferences naturally vary from person to person.

Being bisexual doesn't mean you fancy everyone

A straight person isn't attracted to every member of the opposite sex. The same applies to bisexual singles.

You'll still have your own preferences when it comes to:

• Appearance;
• Personality;
• Sense of humour;
• Interests;
• Lifestyle;
• Values;
• Relationship goals.

Bisexuality describes who you could be attracted to — it doesn't determine who you'll actually have a great relationship with.

You don't have to pick a side

Being bisexual doesn't mean you eventually need to decide whether you're "really" into men or women.

When you fall for someone and enter a relationship, your sexual orientation doesn't change because of it.

A bisexual woman in a relationship with a man is still bisexual. A bisexual man dating a woman is still bisexual. Your partner's gender doesn't redefine who you are.

Bi dating without the stereotypes

There are still plenty of misconceptions around bi dating. One common one is the assumption that bisexual people struggle with monogamy or constantly want multiple partners.

That's simply not true. Sexual orientation and relationship style are two different things.

A bisexual single might be looking for:

• A committed, monogamous relationship;
• A long-distance or living-apart-together arrangement;
• A relationship that leads to living together;
• A partner who also wants children;
• Another type of relationship both partners actively choose.

Meeting bisexual singles

Online dating can make it much easier to meet bisexual singles and connect with people who are open to a bisexual partner.

In everyday life, it's not always clear what someone's sexual orientation is or what kind of connections they're looking for.

Meeting bisexual women

If you're a bisexual woman, you might be interested in men, women, or people with another gender identity — depending on your personal preference.

On your dating profile, focus on sharing who you are and what kind of person you'd like to meet.

Your sexual orientation is part of your identity, but it doesn't have to define your entire profile.

Meeting bisexual men

For bisexual men, online dating can also open up new possibilities for meeting like-minded people.

Bisexual men sometimes face the stereotype that they're "actually gay". That's an unhelpful and inaccurate assumption.

Let someone share in their own words how they experience their orientation and what kind of relationship they're after.

Dating someone who is bisexual

Not bisexual yourself, but interested in someone who is? That needn't change much about your relationship at all.

A bisexual partner doesn't automatically have a greater need for other people than a straight, gay, or lesbian partner would.

The same things matter as in any other relationship:

• Trust;
• Communication;
• Respect;
• Attraction;
• Boundaries;
• Shared relationship goals;
• Plans for the future.

Ask rather than assume

Curious about how someone experiences their bisexuality? Ask them respectfully.

Avoid jumping to conclusions about someone's past relationships, sexual history, or preferences.

Every bisexual person is different.

Online dating tips for bi singles

When it comes to online dating as a bisexual, a well-written profile makes all the difference in connecting with people who genuinely suit you.

Rather than focusing solely on which genders you're attracted to, share what makes you interesting as a person.

Show who you are

Write about things like:

• Your hobbies;
• Sports you enjoy;
• Music and films;
• Travel;
• Work or studies;
• Family and friends;
• How you spend your free time;
• What matters to you in a relationship.

These details give other singles much better starting points for a genuine conversation.

Be clear about who you'd like to meet

You don't necessarily have to be open to every gender you're theoretically attracted to.

Perhaps right now you're mainly interested in women. Maybe you're looking for a man. Or maybe gender matters far less to you than someone's personality.

Be as clear as you can about the kind of connection you're looking for.

Use recent photos

Choose photos where you're clearly recognisable and that give an honest picture of how you look now.

At 4Match, new profiles and photos are manually reviewed.

Start with a personal message

Spotted an interesting profile? Respond to something they've actually written about themselves.

That could be a shared hobby, a place they've travelled to, a favourite band, a sport, or another common interest.

That way, the conversation starts with who you both are as people — not just with sexual orientation.

Bisexual dating for a serious relationship

Looking for a serious relationship through bisexual dating? Then the same fundamentals apply as with any lasting partnership.

You need to find each other attractive, of course — but you also need enough common ground to build a comfortable life together.

Talk about what you both want

As things become more serious, it helps to discuss questions like:

• Are you both looking for a committed relationship?
• Do you want to date monogamously?
• Would you eventually like to live together?
• Does a living-apart-together arrangement suit you better?
• Is there a desire to have children?
• How important is personal independence?
• What do you expect from a partner?

Don't assume a particular relationship model just because one of you is bisexual.

Bisexuality within a monogamous relationship

You can fully commit to one person and still be bisexual.

Just as someone in a straight relationship can still find other people attractive, feeling attraction doesn't mean someone wants to act on it.

Trust and honest communication matter far more than sexual orientation.

Your partner doesn't have to be bisexual too

You might appreciate dating someone who recognises your experiences around bisexuality. Shared understanding can be valuable.

But you can just as easily build a fulfilling relationship with someone who is straight, gay, lesbian, or has a different orientation entirely.

Ultimately, look for a person who understands you and feels right — rather than searching only for someone with the same sexual orientation.

From bi dating to a first date

Found someone through bi dating and the conversation is going well? Suggest meeting up in person.

Keep the first date simple

Some ideas:

• A coffee;
• A walk in the park;
• Lunch together;
• A drink at a pub or café;
• Visiting a museum or gallery;
• Browsing a market or local event;
• An activity linked to a shared interest.

Choose somewhere you can actually talk and get to know each other properly.

You don't owe anyone your dating history

A first date isn't a job interview about your past partners.

You can talk about previous relationships if it comes up naturally, but nobody needs to prove their bisexuality by listing how many men or women they've dated.

Staying safe when dating online

• Meet in a public place the first time;
• Don't share your exact home address straight away;
• Arrange your own transport home;
• Let someone you trust know where you are;
• Never transfer money to someone you've only met online;
• Don't let anyone pressure you;
• End contact if someone doesn't respect your boundaries.

Start bisexual dating on 4Match

Bisexual and ready to meet someone for a date or a relationship? Create a personal dating profile on 4Match and discover singles who are open to new connections.

Share who you are, what you enjoy doing, and what kind of person you're looking for. Browse profiles and reach out when someone catches your eye.

You don't need to find someone with the exact same sexual orientation, background, or life experience. What matters most is finding a person where attraction, trust, and personality all come together.

Meet bi singles and other open-minded singles

• Create a free personal dating profile;
• Share who you are;
• Upload recent photos;
• Indicate who you'd like to meet;
• Describe the kind of relationship you're looking for;
• Start a personal conversation;
• Arrange to meet when the connection feels right.

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